Heteronormativity isn’t just about the presumption that everyone is heterosexual. The expectation that boys woo girls feeds into your mind the expectation that relationships are necessary for fulfilment, and you are less than if you are not having particular kinds of sex with a particular, and a particular kind of, person at particular intervals. It’s about what Lauren Berlant calls the love plot, in which love is produced as a generic text enabling society to interpret your life as following certain conventions. It’s not about what you want, it’s about what you’re supposed to want. You’re not encouraged to think about what you want in relationships, if anything, so much as you are encouraged to fit a script. Heteronormativity messes things up for everyone, straight people included.
Have I already reblogged this? Don’t know don’t care.
One of my professors called this the “heteronormative timeline.” You’re supposed to have sex at a certain age. You’re supposed to have had a romantic relationship by a certain age. You’re supposed to be married and start a family at a certain age. Etc etc etc. Straight people DO get fucked over by this. Especially straight women who aren’t interested in marriage or children or are interested in them “too early” or “too late.” I know straight women who are hounded by their parents about this. (of course us queers get the brunt of it though, esp since we typically realize our sexuality “too late” in life)
Doctor Who, the empowerment of the average woman through the triumph of the every man: Part three; Donna Noble
Rose Tyler was a shop girl who looked in the heart of the Tardis. Martha Jones as a young doctor who walked the Earth. But Martha Jones? Oh, Donna Noble was just a temp who became the most important woman in the universe.
I have a soft spot in my heart for Donna. She is my favorite new Who companion. Let me tell you why.
When we first meet Donna, she proclaims she is nothing special. By all means, she really isn’t. Like the others before her, she is an everyman. Easy to relate to, Donna was a woman who felt like she was wasting her life. She wasn’t good at anything really, of no real importance to the world.
But what she brought to the show and to the Doctor’s life can not be underestimated. Donna was never the Doctor’s love interest requited or unrequited. They were friends. Best friends. Buddies. Pals. Mates. Donna saw this weird twiggy alien boy as an equal. She gave him balace, told him to stop when he needed someone to tell him that, held his hand when he needed his hand held.
Her most stunning moment for me is “Turn Left.” We see what Donna’s life would be like if she never met the Doctor, but we also see what the EARTH would become if not for HER. Without Donna, the Doctor dies, Martha dies, Torchwood dies, nations fall, hundreds of innocents are killed, the end of the fucking world. Because of DONNA.
And in the finale, Donna is able to save everyone. She becomes part time lord herself, saves the world, saves the future, for everyone. She literally becomes the most important person in the world.
However, tragically, Donna’s victory is short lived. All the power inside her begins to kill her, and Donna has to revert back to the person she was before. She has to forget the Doctor, their time together. She has to forget HERSELF, forget how AMAZING she can be.
Donna will never know just how incredible, how important, she really is. And that breaks my heart.
From the everyman, tot he most important woman in the world, to the saddest most tragic fucking thing to ever happen in New Who im my opinion, Donna Noble is memorable and fantastic.
im gonna watch madoka magica!!!!!
why did i do this. i fucked up. i fucked up. i fucked up. i fucked up. i fucked up. im so sorry. im trash.
nO PURPLE MADOKA NO
NO YELLOW MADOKA NO!!!!!!!
ITS ONLY THE THIRD FUCKING EPISODE WHAT THE FUCK
WHAT KIND OF SHOUJO ANIME IS THIS
Here’s a friendly reminder: Representation is not representation if it’s only in the creator’s head. A homosexual character will always be assumed straight unless their sexual orientation is explicitly mentioned in the show/movie/book/video game. If the readers or watchers or players are not forced to confront the fact that their favourite character is - gasp - not straight, most will never even entertain the idea. This is why Dumbledore’s homosexuality does not count.
nowadays, we do have queer representation on tv shows, movies, comic books etc. there are queer people and couples even in pretty popular shows. but, off the bat, I can’t think of any popular series/movie/book that has a queer person or couple in a main role
I think this especially shows with so called “queer baiting” couples, such as Merlin and Arthur in Merlin, Castiel and Dean in Supernatural, Spock and Kirk in Star Trek, Steve and Tony from The Avengers. they’re all friends who are very often portrayed as more, but it’s never said officially that they are together. as a queer person, I see this as a problem.
queer representation is very lacking in media even as it is, and I feel that these “queer baits” aren’t making LGBTQ right/awareness any better; on the contrary, they are demeaning and hurtful towards queer people.
I feel like all these major producers and companies are telling us that while a popular main character could never be openly queer, they can still use queer people as a marketing gimmick, a way to earn more money by “targeting” queer people and slash fans.
publicly admitting that Dean Winchester is bisexual is way out of the question, but heck yeah will we use bisexuality and bisexuals to make more money! because, hey, it’s not like these queer people are actually people, right? they won’t feel bad when their sexuality and/or gender, which is already oppressed, gets turned into a way to earn extra bucks through fans who will hang onto the series in hopes of finally seeing some action between Castiel and Dean.
this is hurtful. having cishet people telling me I’m greedy for wanting a popular queer pairing/character or that I “need to stop making everyone gay” is hurtful. no, I don’t hate heterosexuals or heterosexual couples. no, I don’t think everyone needs to be gay. I just wish I could feel important, too, every once in a while.
my sexuality and gender are real, and not some cheap throwaway punchline for other people’s entertainment. please stop making me feel like it is.